Kick Start Your Heart

The year was 1987. It was a wild tour with Motley Cruë on tour with Guns ‘n Roses. The bass guitar player for Motley Cruë, Nikki Sixx, had a very long history of trouble with the drug heroin. Nikki Sixx was partying with Slash from Guns ‘n Roses, I believe; he had way too much and overdosed. He was considered dead for a full two minutes, until an ambulance crew arrived. The leader of that medic team that night was a big Motley Cruë Fan. He is believed to have said one of his music heroes was not going to die on his shift.

I do not know the entire story because I was not there; I only read of it on news web sites, and in accounts by Nikki Sixx. What I can tell you is that most people who come back from an experience like that never forget it. Nikki Sixx wrote a song about it.

The band, Motley Cruë, is one of my favorites; it has always been. I use stories like this in my work and this is one of the things that makes the way I work with people in coaching stand out. I know many coaches, speakers, and motivators who would never have researched a story like this to use for their programs. Nikki is not exactly the kind of person who would speak at a local church. In fact, my personal experience growing up in church was always being pointed away from stories like this.

Nikki stands out to me because not only did his best years happen after this event, but some of his best happened after he cleaned up from the life of heavy drugs. As I have said his music will not make the church scenes. But his motivational story is one that impacts people – just like his life and music had impacted a paramedic enough that he vowed as a fan to kick-start Nikki’s heart because he refused to see him die.

Now let me tell you the story of another person I know personally who had a near-death experience like Nikki Sixx. Tim Newland is a friend of mine from the Dallas area. He is the current president of the Passion Riders chapter of the Christian Motorcyclist Association, in Carrollton, TX. Tim has had heart problems and has had a device implanted to help keep his heart working properly. A few years ago, before I met Tim, he was out on a motorcycle ride with some friends. Tim fell down in the parking lot where they were meeting and those who were with him claim he died that day. The riders took their own form of “we are not letting him die on our watch.” They all put their hands on Tim and prayed over him. He came back and now Tim, just like Nikki, lives a life that has much more passion than before.

So what is your passion in life? I hope for you that it will not take lying on the ground with friends praying over you, or an ambulance crew giving you two shots of adrenaline to make you come to life with passion. In this week where we are talking about standing out from the crowd to succeed, both Nikki Sixx and Tim Newland are people who stand out. So is it time to kick-start your heart?

I’m Tim Gillette the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. Kick-start your heart with passion to be the RockStar in your world.


Lost On Purpose

This week has been a learning experience for me. I’ve spent a lot of time going through some stories of my own personal life, the stories of others, and the view of the future. When you look at your past and see what you learned from it, take those things that people would say are failure or loss, and ask yourself if you have used them to take your life to new levels of success? You see, everyone has the same view of life: we all can look at our past, see if we learned from the mistakes or repeat them and we can see either success or repeated failure. That will show you where your future is.

I have faced loss so many times in my life, then kept the hope alive to start over. When you face a loss in any way in your life that is the one thing you don’t ever want to lose: hope. The purpose to this week is to help you see there is life after your loss.

Just like when we lose a loved one we must face a time of mourning, a time to sit back and reflect on that part of our life. We are not to stay there, to linger in the loss. In the next month we are going to have a memorial of the 10th year anniversary of 9/11. That happened to our country ten years ago. Some people went on to build much better lives to honor those who lost lives that day. They will actually be opening a monument to what happened in New York next month.

In your life, when loss happens you build a memorial to it, but also take your life to a new level to honor the fact that you learned from this loss. If we lose a loved one to something like 9/11 or war, we build something to honor the bravery of the person we lost.

The main purpose I had for this week was to learn and grow from every chance you get, to become a better person, to grow your dream even bigger out of the loss you had. For me, with each and every business that didn’t work out, some of them I closed the door and some I sold out just to let the headaches go. They are not in the past; I learned from them to build the next one better–not always bigger, but better.

This week we mentioned Steve Jobs and how he resigned from his position at Apple. If you go back and check his story, he was once kicked out of Apple. Imagine if he had left the world of computers because he could not take that loss. Think of the tech products that would not have been invented. He started another vision and built it, till the day came that his former company bought out his new company and kept him on as CEO.

When you get a vision for something, a loss like that is only a stepping-stone to get you to continue towards the path you were working on. It may mean you have a mountain or two to go around to get there.

A loss I had a few years ago that I do not speak of much was the loss of a lady who I dated. I believed she was the woman I was going to spend the rest of my life with. Well, it did not work out. When that relationship ended it really knocked me down. I ended up losing most of my close friends at that time and found myself starting over with a small team of just me.

I tell that story because now, as I look back, it was one of the greatest things that happened to me. I did not date for a few years after that; I was able to really build my life. Then when I did not expect it, in 2009 I met a woman who is truly my life match. We have so much more of a joyful time with each other, have so many common dreams. With Gwynne in my life I now have two successful businesses where she is my partner, not just the person who hangs on my arm for public appearances, but partners as we share everything, even our adult kids.

So when you feel loss is the end, take the words of Gene Simmons to heart: “Every day above ground is a good day.” I lost my dad this past year, and yes I miss him. But he wanted me to honor him by moving forward with my life, to enjoy every day I have with this life, enjoy all the time I have with my family. So you must move past the lost part of your life now. Step out and make new plans to start over. That is the purpose of lost, to tell you it’s time to start over and make it better.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s your time to live the life you always dreamed of, to learn to love what you do and those you share this life with. Let me help make you the RockStar in your world. My specialty is helping start over after loss and come out better than ever! Contact me today and let’s get started!

Lost But Not Forgotten

Today I wanted to take the lost idea another way, but after the news from yesterday it was more fitting to talk about what happens when we feel we have lost a leader, a mentor, or someone in our world who has changed it. As most of you have read by now, if not in the news or on a pop up for your news pages, yesterday Steve Jobs resigned as CEO of Apple. It is fair to say that Apple was his lifeblood; he is the man who has been behind the design of their products for years.

In each of our lives we will have times where we must move forward without someone there. In our world, I look back to many of the places where we have lost leaders. It happens in sports when a leader decides it’s his time to retire. Think back to the day that Joe Montana retired; I think of the day here in Dallas that we watched the retirement ceremony of Bret Hull. The biggest memory of when an icon leaves a sport would be the day that Dale Earnhardt crashed into the wall, with both of his cars leading and taking 1st and 2nd place in the Daytona 500. It was a shock, but the sport lived on.

Originally, I was going to post about loss of a loved one. Last summer I lost a friend to a bike accident. I sat on the side of the road with him and watched as he took his last breath, while talking to his wife, who was riding with him and who was also hurt. At almost the exact same moment, my honey was at home here in Texas watching her mother take her last breath, too, after a long illness. Then, in December I was driving with my mom here in Texas while she received a call from the hospital back in Pennsylvania that my dad had taken his last breath. It’s a fact of life that we will face the loss of loved ones at some time.  The great thing is that we actually opened our lives up enough to let someone in and to love them.

There was news this week about Pat Summitt, the legendary coach of the Tennessee Volunteers’ women’s basketball team. She’s the winningest coach in collegiate basketball – men’s or women’s – and she was just diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s disease. She wasn’t ready to leave coaching yet so she is going to remain in her job for now but has had to make the decision to turn over many of her coaching responsibilities to her assistants because of the effects of the disease.

Our life goes on after loss and these industries and businesses will go on after the person who has built it decides he needs to step down and leave for the better of his own life. Do you know the limits on your life when you get to the point that you can no longer do what you do? Do you know the point where your limits stop? When our life changes by the loss of a family, or friend we have to look at our life and know what we can do and what we can’t do. We have limited time on this earth and not only are we to use our time to dedicate ourselves to making the world better, we need to also work to give ourselves the best life we can for as long as we can.

Take some time this week and make sure that you have your life in order. We must use these experiences as learning to make sure we are set up to be the best we can be. One day we will exit this earth, and as I’ve said before, no one ever sat on their death bed and said “I wish I had spent more time at my job.” Make sure you balance your life out to enjoy your life, not just work your life away.

Apple will still be a great company. I am sure that Steve Jobs has set up those who are there for success. After all, I’m sure many of those ideas at Apple are from an idea pool created by people working on innovative ways that will keep the company growing. The Tennessee Lady Vols will still win games and maybe championships even without their famous coach. She didn’t coach them alone; she has a staff of dedicated assistants who have been with her for many years coaching beside her. Take this lesson to your own life; learn to set your family up for success after you are gone. Take the time to set your company up so others will be able to carry on your vision of this idea you have created.

When your life gets to the point you cannot do what you do any longer know when it’s time to step down. A stand up guy makes a statement like Steve Jobs did and says “I told you when the time comes that I cannot do my best at this I will step down.” Well that time has come for him and it will likely come for Pat Summitt. Steve, thanks for the tech world you set up for us. May you find rest and enjoyment in retirement and take pleasure in the rest of your time on this earth. Steve Jobs lived my motto and you should too.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time for you to live the life you always dreamed of, by learning to love what you do and those you share your life with. Now is the time for putting your plan in action to be the RockStar in your world.

I Lost It All: Now What?

The year was 2003. It was just weeks away from my second roommate in four years getting married. It was time for me to stop having roommates and get a place of my own. I worked many hours; during the day I was out going from business to business working cleaning cars for customers. When I did not have customers scheduled I would go to office buildings and look for new customers. This was a time in my life that I would leave my home at around 8 am then, after washing and detailing cars till 7 pm I would sometimes serve at different events going on at my church. Most days I did not see my home again until 9 pm.

Over five months I had rebuilt the engine in my truck. Having a truck that was in good running condition meant I could now keep my expenses low to continue to build my business. Then came the roommate getting married and having to change my world to get another place. So in the late nights at the beginning of May, I started packing my truck up at night and moving things over to my new place.

Then one night I packed my truck full, furniture, computers , sound system, desks, tables, it was my next to last load of things to move. All I would have left would be my bed and my TV. The next morning when I got up at 6 am to head out early, after the usual shower and clean up I walked outside to find my truck had been stolen with almost everything I owned in it.

As I read this back while writing it, my life is so much better than it was at that moment. It was a hard day in my life, the feeling that everything I needed to keep my life going was gone. What would I do now? For me I have had some things similar to this event happen a few times in my life. Two months after this happened I lost my best friend to a heart attack while he was on vacation. Two years after that, I was starting over after selling my business, ended up spending all the money and became homeless. Life can give you some hard times. Some you place on yourself, others you set yourself up for, and others come in and steal from you.

It’s hard to say that, but had I parked my car in the garage that night, no one could have seen what things were inside it and they couldn’t have stolen it so easily. But that is another story. For today I want to look at your life and ask you what is important? There was one important thing that I lost that day; one of the things in my truck was a Bible that I used at the time and it had so many of my notes in it on learning in life. That day with the help of friends I had a car to use and tools to be able to work to clean my customers’ cars that weekend. As my friend Brian was taking me home that night from a day’s events, he asked me what is one good thing you could see come out of this? I said if the thief found my bible and was able to read it and find Jesus, that would be a good thing.

In this life you will lose many things. From your car, to your car keys. Some will have a large impact in your life, others will set you back for a few days. No matter where you are in life, start where you are and build again. In my life I am so glad for what I have now. I am able to work to help people. As I talk with people each day, hearing challenges they are facing in reaching the goals, or the dream life they are searching for, I am able to look through more problems than they could ever see. When I get to see a victory in a someone’s life after coaching them through those dark times, I see those times that I went through are a guide to now let me help you.

Wherever you are, if you are at a loss in your life, stop and find what you do have. Decide what it will take to move from where you are to reach the goals you were headed towards. Set up a new game plan and get to work. You may find, as I did a year later, that you will sell the current business you have and see an entire new dream you never thought possible.

Life is here to be lived, folks. Yes some days it is two steps forward and one step back. Other days you will find it’s one step forward and two steps back. You will only be able to move forward if you get up when you fall. Do what you can with what you’ve got.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. Are you living the life you always wanted, learning to love what you do and those you share life with? Are you ready to become the RockStar in your world? I can help you achieve that. Now is the time.

Lost Day 2: No jobs

I love when I come up with an idea for a theme like this week’s. I get so many old, out-of-the-blue stories to use to show that life is not all that bad for me. Today, as I got this story in, I was thinking back to what another motivator used from the stage almost 20 years ago. He would tell us that if all of us were to put our current problem in a bag and drop it on the floor, then kick it, find a new bag with someone else’s problem and open it, we would be looking for our own bag back after opening two other bags.

So many of us have problems we are facing. This week the subject of “lost” is a good way to look at some of the major losses we have in life. Imagine you are like my old friend Stephanie who worked in a factory for 17 years, making parts for new cars until her job was moved overseas. While many people want to place blame for where the job went, the bottom line is she was out of work and had to find a way to help in her part of supporting her family.

This is the story of so many in our country, or even our world. They went to work one day and came home without a job. I know what this was like; as a child I watched my dad come home this same way many times. It is what gave me the drive to be an entrepreneur.

Times change in our world and, yes, to move forward means the type of jobs that are available will change. While you may not be at a point of a lost job yet, what can you do with your life to be prepared for it?

First, sharpen your skills. Are there some areas that you could start improving on in life so you will have other work skills?  We should always be working on improvement in our life. We should make sure we develop another skill to put to work when we need it. For years the major Companies always were grooming people to take over leadership positions when a certain leader was ready to retire. That is how they prepared for the survival of their company.

Not everyone has a printed resume anymore; most people have it available online. In today’s social media world it’s important to have your profiles up to date and looking good. One of the things Mike O’Neil of Rock the World Media tells his clients to do is to always have your LinkedIn profile up to date, to have it “spiffed up,” as he calls it. When you have it all filled in, it is ready at a minute’s notice if you need it. Or it’s out there for those recruiter companies, who are always looking for new talent to fill positions that are opening.

If you have been out of a job and are looking for one now, I suggest several things.  Get involved with networking groups that help you to get your resume ready, and have a network of people who know people in other industries. Get a part-time job that can open up to full-time opportunities. Some people working part time at places like Starbucks, or bartending at a local bar are then able to meet and network with their daily customers to find out about opportunities they did not know were available.

When working part-time also get yourself back into a life of learning. If you learn the skills that I have learned from other entrepreneurs you could learn to create a new world for yourself. That is a skill that is needed, even in our company jobs. These companies in this world today need more entrepreneurs working for them to create new ideas and new divisions.

One of the old articles I was reading from a newspaper from the east coast stated that they were losing entrepreneurs who were giving up creating new companies and ideas, and each time they did that additional jobs were leaving. Think back to the young lady early in the story. After losing her job, she started selling crafts and DVDs on eBay in the mid ‘90s. She now has a rather large business she and her husband run from a garage they added in their back yard to run this business. They have learned to work with the changes. Even now as our world has changed they sell other things on eBay.

So if you are facing a possible layoff, or you have lost your job, it’s time for you to develop your entrepreneur skills and build a better world for yourself. It’s time to prepare your back-up plan. This is another way that coaches help you. After all, it’s been said one of the three toughest things that people face in life is death of a loved one, divorce, or layoff or loss of a job. Since job loss is one that could happen more frequently, you should prepare for it.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time for you to live the life you always wanted, to learn to love what you do and those you share your life with, and develop a plan to become the RockStar in your world. I can help you put that plan together. Let me know what I can do for you today.

I Have No Money, Now What?

It was a Wednesday afternoon in mid July, back in the year 1986. John had an auto repair shop that was now running great after six years of working his business on a shoestring budget. He was always there for his customers, doing the best with the equipment he had and it was finally hitting home. On Monday John was in court about a complaint about his business. It seems that some people didn’t like how he did his work – not the work itself, the operation of his business location. If you needed a repair John would look at your car and fix it if you were referred by a friend. Many times he fixed the car and took whatever money the new customer could afford to pay. He wrote many people a bill but never was able to see them pay. He believed in the karma of life, what you do for others will come back to you.

With his way of doing business he always seemed to have worked to do. There seemed to be a never-ending line of work for him. Even though many times money was tight, he always seemed to have the money to pay his employees. Well this was a first. For months he dealt with the court because of complaints from city and other people in the business about how he was not really up to code on his business property. Now he had to pay fines and follow city codes for the way his property was maintained. This left him for the first time in six years with no money to make his payroll that Friday. I tell this story of an old friend of mine, John, who had never in his life faced the issue up till now of not having the money – not having money to the point he really did not know how he was going to pay.

Many people out there are facing money problems. When you are in the midst of those money problems, you feel it is the end of the world. The older we get, the more times it happens, the less we usually sweat about it. But the first time you ever face this issue and face it hard, it brings many strong men and woman to places they never before thought they would ever turn.

Not having enough money, is one of the toughest “lost” things we face in this world. It feels like we have been torn from the real world. If you ever watch or have worked for a boss who has lived this part of running a business, you get to see the real side of them, anger comes out. They head to the track to gamble, they buy lottery tickets. They do everything wrong at first. It’s when we hit the bottom and we have nowhere to look but up that we see we should have looked up to begin with.

I few years ago I was in this very money situation. Business was not bringing in the income needed to pay for equipment, to keep employees working a full week. I made a few wrong choices and ended up worse than my buddy John. I ended up with no home, no car, no job, no business. What should we do when facing no money?

A few weeks back I wrote about how I sold some things around the house to make an investment in Apple stock. It was like I took junk and turned it into $1,200. Since that time I have sold the stock at just under $400 a share and now that very stock is at selling at about $350 a share.

If you are without money you could sell some things that are not needed to find extra money. But be sure you know what your investments will be to make that money grow. You see most people will sell the items and use the money to pay off all the bills they owe, or take half of it and buy a new toy. That toy will make you happy for a while, but if you don’t first get your money problem fixed, soon you will be selling that toy at ½ what you paid for it to pay off other debts. If you don’t have a way to make your money grow properly, you could have made the investment in the stock like I did and think, “Oh, I’m all set. This stock is growing.” Then look at where that stock is today with the stock market crash the last few weeks only to find out you have a $250 value stock you paid $300 for.

We are always going to be facing money issues in our lives. I tell people to always build yourself a “what if” plan. This is not like they sell you on the insurance commercial but start by build up a back-up money plan just for those rainy days. If you have two months’ salary in an account you can reach in less than five days, then you will be able to be ready for tough times before they get here.

If you are facing tough money problems and looking for ideas to get you out, start by talking with a financial planner. Get some advice from someone who is not to closely related to you but an outside source to help you get yourself on a track that only builds for you. And remember my theory on this there: is no such thing as a money problem, there is only an idea problem.

John closed his business not to long after this happened, he sold tools in the shop to pay his employees, and gave up on his business, feeling disheartened over city regulations that were there as a standard in his city. He went on to create another company five years later and is still working but learned to live in the regulations of his industry. Thus John still has a success story in his life; he just had to learn what to take care of.

I’m Tim Gillette the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time for you to live the life you always wanted, to learn to love what you do and those you share life with, and be a RockStar in your world. Are you ready to take the step of working with a Life Coach to help you reach your full potential?

Lost Week

Tomorrow begins a week of posts about lost. No, this is not about the TV show that was the talk of coffee rooms, personal meetings and such over the past seven years. I wanted to talk about losing and how we deal with it. This week we will address five different kinds of loss in our lives that either make or break people.
So, come back tomorrow morning and see what our first “lost” subject is. After all we all have lost from time to time. Let’s hear how some of us get through it.
In the meantime if you have a story about being lost or experiencing loss in your life, I’d like to hear it. Maybe you lost a job or career that you loved and will never be able to return to. Maybe you lost that one sweetheart that got away and still are not over it him or her. Or you could have lost like I have in life: best friend, father, business, a marriage, money, a car. Basically, I’ve hit bottom more than once.
If you have lost and want to share, email me this week with a short spot on your story, leave contact info so I can call or email you to get some details to share a story to help others.
See you tomorrow. This the last full week of August, and our summer is winding down fast.
For now, live the life you always wanted, by learning to love what you do and those you share life with, develop the plan to be the RockStar in your world.