Guest Post: Creating a Healthy Environment

I’m thrilled that Tim has asked me to contribute a posting to his week on creating an environment that will help you succeed. I’m especially happy because he’s asked me to talk about something I’m very passionate about: being healthy. Now, I don’t claim to be the healthiest person out there and I’m not what you’d call a health nut. I’m not hyper-vigilant about additives in my food; I don’t take any supplements, I’m not a picky eater at all and I drink water out of  the tap.

I want share my thoughts on living a healthier life. Because I do have a passion for helping people do just that. A little about me: When I was a young child, I was overweight. As a teenager, I joined a swim team and lost a lot of weight, becoming really thin. Then I quit swimming, gained weight. I had children and gained some more weight. I got divorced and then lost a lot of weight. Then I gained it back and finally found myself facing middle age almost 100 pounds overweight with no one to blame it on but myself.

At that point, I joined Weight Watchers and lost almost 100 pounds. I have kept that weight off for more than 10 years and now work for them. But this isn’t a blog about Weight Watchers. It’s a blog about making a commitment to be healthier.

Weight loss, like any other undertaking, requires a long-term commitment and a willingness to stay the course, even when you aren’t getting the results you want. I firmly believe that we have set ourselves up with expectations of achievement without paying our dues, so to speak. Let me give you an example. It took me 15 months of making modest food and exercises changes to lose 90 pounds. But if I were to turn on the TV on a given night and watch a show like Biggest Loser, I would see people losing weight a lot more quickly – much more quickly than the average person should aspire to lose without constant medical supervision.

We all know someone who has taken a drastic measure to loose weight (lap band, gastric bypass, etc.). And the pounds seem to just fall off them. In fact, these surgical interventions are as close as we’ve come so far to a “magic pill” for weight loss. Believe it or not, though, I know many people who have lost hundreds of pounds this way but have gained it back – just like anyone else. There is no magic pill.

I’m not here to come down hard on people who choose those routes, but I do believe that the one thing we are becoming is a society that is unwilling to commit a time investment to what we want. “I want it all and I want it now.” That’s our American mantra. But when it comes to most things, “now” isn’t going to happen. We’ve got to be ready to invest time.

Why is this so important? You know the phrase “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” Well, I think we’re unwilling to work through tough times. We tend to give up as soon as we have a set back. When it comes to committing to a healthier lifestyle, you must be prepared for there to be days when you don’t want to exercise, even though you know it’s good for you. If you are working to lose weight and have committed to eating less and making healthier choices there are going to be days when you eat more than you planned or made choices you later regret. If you have the  mindset that one day of falling off your plan means you’ve failed, you have a lot of heartache ahead of you!

I have a member, Judy, who is in her 60s. When she joined my meeting, she was 200 pounds overweight. Over the course of two years, she has lost more than 150 pounds and will achieve her weight goal this year. During those two years, she had a period of almost six months where she only lost a total of four pounds! That could be very demoralizing to someone who, while she had lost a lot of weight, still had a considerable amount to lose. But she knew that what she was doing would pay off in the long run, even if it didn’t seem to be working at the moment. At the time, she had actually started an exercise routine (something she hadn’t done in 40 years), had hired a personal trainer, and made huge strides there. Now she’s back to a regular pattern of losing weight as well – thanks to her persistence and her faith that even very small steps get you closer to your goal.

I believe that a healthy lifestyle is one of moderation, managed enjoyment things, and long-term commitment to our goals of making healthy choices. If you are starting, as I did, very overweight with a closetful of bad habits to change, you must be prepared to devote time – a lot of time – to making changes. You must be ready to see the scale go up sometimes. If you have made a commitment to true and lasting change, you aren’t focused on the events of one day in which you might have made regrettable choices; you are focused on how tomorrow – in fact, how your next meal – is an opportunity to get back on track.

Tim talks a lot about starting over with nothing. One great thing about leading a healthier lifestyle is that you can’t undo all your hard work in one day. If I set my mind to it, I could spend all our money in less than an hour. I cannot possibly gain back the weight I’ve lost in a single day (no matter what I eat).

I’ve begun a training program because I hope to run a half marathon later in the spring. Wednesday I simply couldn’t get a run in because of circumstances completely outside my control. One missed workout doesn’t undo all the other workouts that have preceded it – unless I give up.

That’s the best news about focusing on healthier choices: if you have a bad day, you can fix it immediately. What’s the payoff? Not only will you feel better, but I believe you will learn disciplines that you can apply to any area of your life, whether it’s delaying a major purchase until you can pay cash for it, working an extra job for a period to pay off debt you’ve built up, or making sacrifices to start your own business. All the skills are the same: you build strength through persistence and determination.

Today’s Guest post is from my Partner in life, and later this year she will be my new wife. She also has a blog about being a lady biker. You can read more of her material at ladybikertravel.com.

 If you would like to guest post on our blog email me at : tim@rockerlifecoach.com , lets talk about a subject coming up and if you could give some input.

I’m Tim Gillette the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. Live a healthy life long enough to become the RockStar in your world.

Love What You Do

Good Thursday morning. How is your success environment this week? One by one my posts have been about the important things that help us build success in life. They are not about what makes us successful, but what helps us build an environment of success.

Setting up your world for success takes some work. First we went into our home, then our relationships. Today we are going to talk about the work we do and setting our work environment up for success.

When it comes to work, first we have to address the fact that it is work. Yesterday we spoke about how we build relationships we want. Sometimes they take work to build, like your marriage or partnership. It takes time to get to know someone and work to build a strong relationship.

Today in the subject of doing work we love, it’s important to remember you may have to work at something you don’t like to get to what you do like. For years I have said you need to love what you do. In many cases I worked at jobs I hated, but loved the work. The idea is if you learn to love what you are doing, you do it better. If you are doing the part of the job that you do not like, it’s OK not to like it. You need to build an attitude that you love what you do and become a success at it. This is the biggest thing that I focus on with younger people: working at something for a while that you may not like and building it into a job you love.

I wrote last year about how I created success in almost every job I had. I learned to become successful at every place I was at. If you want to love what you do, then learn to work hard and be successful at those things you don’t like to do. When you shine at it, opportunity will open up for those jobs that you will love to do.

In many cases people will chase after you to find what it is they love to do. They will spend years getting fired from jobs they don’t like and the whole the time they could have worked those jobs to open the doors to what they love to do. When coaching people and having them search for the ideas to find what they love to do, I often hear them tell stories about how they bought into a business deal, or took a training course, or even attended an online or in-town workshop. They get through it and then find out they really hate the work.

So often these people spend years of their lives chasing the money and not the work. In life you will have to do some kind of work to maintain a living. Learn to love what you do and find a way to be successful at all things, let it open doors to things you love. That is the reason at the end of every one of my blogs I put the line “love what you do and those you share life with.” It is because no matter what you do if you don’t love it, you will not work at it.

One of the greatest things I learned in building success at work was told to me years ago by a man who started looking for another job because he hated where he was. When talking with a coach, that coach told him to find a way to turn his current job into a success and find a way to love it. The coach told him then he could also put the word out that he was looking for other jobs. Well he built a team and that team became the most successful team of sales people in the entire company. It was when they became the success that this man was offered three other job opportunities. After building his team and taking them to the top sales team, he started to love where he was at and turned down all three job offers.

The lesson to learn in this is you can build a world you will love. You build your success at the job, you find the place to work and love where you are at, and then doors will open up. But once you have built the place you are at, you may find you don’t want to leave after all. That is how people build a success at their work or business and find what they love. Build yours today, if you don’t like it once you are successful at it, then you will see offers coming your way. Those that are the best at what they do are in demand. Think about that: if you found someone who was successful would you want to hire them to run a division of your company? Or would you rather choose one of those that failed and have no job to bring your company to success? It’s time to build a job you love and make yourself in demand.

I’m Tim Gillette the Rocker Life coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. Become a success at what you do and become the RockStar at doing it.

Successful People Around You

The middle of the week has arrived and that means that our theme of setting up your environment is halfway done. Monday we introduced the idea that the world around us – our environment – makes the difference in our success and yesterday we talked about our home being set up for success. Today let’s take it to a higher level.

For the past 20 years no matter who I was working with, even when I was in the auto industry, there were several areas I would say that could predict the success of someone five years down the line. Among those things were the books or things they read; what they did with the time they had; how they used the money, tools and seeds they had been given. But there is one especially important thing and that is the people they hang out with.

As a young teen I was given the advice from my parents and those who wanted to see me succeed in life to never hang out with the wrong crowd. When it comes to our friends we spend our free time with, or those we choose to form partnerships with, the idea of keeping positive people who can help build our world is important. Focus on building friendships that can only help you get to the places you want to go. Keeping a friend around who is always looking out for you is great.

And it’s not one-sided, not just about what people can do for you. Too many times in life we can chase people who we need to help us and forget about those who we need to help. But then I have met people who are all caught up in the path of finding those that need the help and not having someone to hang onto to keep them up.

Building relationships is the word we want to use here. In many cases I am building relationships and helping people who may someday surpass my success. Someday I may need to reach out to them to get back up. I once heard that you should have two kinds of people in life: those who are mentoring you to make you better, and those you are mentoring to help them be better.

In the many outings that I attend and the places that I go to speak, I meet so many people who are looking for me to help them out. I am all too excited to help them. After all, the mentors in my life were quick to grab my hand when I needed it most. When I was building my last car wash business. I had a close friend who I speak of often. His name was Richy and, at the time, he had many small companies and ideas floating around, but was co-owner with his brother of one of the bigger packaging companies here in the Dallas area.

Rich taught me the meaning of helping. He was always telling me ways to make my business life better. At the same time I was meeting with three other people in the car wash business helping them get through the tough times and find the niche of clients that kept them working. We all build those relationships to keep us moving forward and to keep us humble.

But let’s talk about one more set of relationships: Family. Most of us have several people in this category of relationships.

Mate or partner. This is one of the most precious of partnerships and relationships you have. You fell in love and joined your lives together. For the most part you are on the same page, but as we discussed yesterday with setting our house up for success we have to consider each other and make it our life together. For Gwynne and me, it’s not hard. We fit together very well, but we still have different tastes and from time to time, to set our lives for success, we must compromise and come to a mutual agreement to keep that relationship strong. After all we grew up in different worlds and met and combined worlds.

Kids. If you have kids they are one very important relationship for you. If yours are younger, you need to spend some time doing what may seem like strange things they like to do. As they get older, you must mentor them and train them to go out into the real world and be able to handle it. Also realize they may grow up and become different than you are. I am still reminded of my Dad and his extreme politics. While I have some of his beliefs, other ideas I think he was too extreme on. Which brings me to my last family members.

Parents. In our house Gwynne’s father is part of the home we share. The joys that make his life are a big concern to her as he is not as young as we are. We have many great times together sitting down to play Scrabble many evenings, having him join us in different activities we do, attending events we all like together. The other part is my mom. She also is widowed now, but off serving on a mission trip overseas which she wanted to do. Our parents are not going to be with us forever. Like the relationships we build in mentoring, I often would talk to my dad about how to handle life. Remember, our parents experienced it once before; use their knowledge to set up your future for success.

In life we will have many relationships. There are those built on friendship to help us become RockStar success stories. There are those that will get cut short due to their time being up before ours. Each person you meet today is part of the environment of success you need for your tomorrow. So build those relationships; they will last longer than homes, jobs, or things.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and Love those you share life with. Build relationships that take you to a RockStar life.

A Peaceful Home

Good Tuesday morning to you. It’s day two of Environment Week and there is a question I want to ask: is everything working well for you in your home?  Is your home the place you cannot wait to get back to each day? Many people don’t think about how important their homes can be to their success, but let’s think about this for a moment. If you were living in a home with no peace and you could not get enough rest each day, how productive would you be in your world?

A recent commercial for Holiday Inn Express focused on the concept of getting restful night’s sleep. It showed people being able to do things that they are not trained to do and then saying “I’m not the pilot of this plane, but I stayed in a Holiday Inn Express last night and got a great night’s sleep.” The commercial brings about a point that I wanted to make today: How much further could you go towards your goals if you started each day rested and went to work with a peaceful mindset?  How well could you perform any duties you needed to if you had less stress at home?

To keep your life a success, no matter what kind of home you have, you must build your home it to be that place you cannot wait to get back to. If you live in a home like we do you, with eight people sharing five bedrooms, you may have to find your corner of the home to build your success. I have three simple steps for making your home your peaceful and productive place.

1.  Set up your own comfort zone. I said there are eight of us currently living in the house but two of them are moving out soon. With that move, we are working to create a better office space for me as well as opening up space for our Couchsurfers and family guests while still meeting the needs of those of us who will continue to live here. We are setting up our patios so we can all have an outside relaxation place. The key is I work from home I but do not want to carry my work in every part of the home. So we are working to set it up spaces that are for the entire family, spaces that are just for us, and spaces that are just for work. No matter how you set your home up it must be set up to work for you.

2.  Learn the settings of color and decoration. When it comes to my personal decorating taste, it is not what most would expect from a long haired biker guy. I love to have my space clean neat and looking like it was professionally decorated. When I moved in with Gwynne it was tough to get used to the color. Her bedroom had a combination of five colors. She is a colorful person and we are working on a combination for repainting before our wedding. She wants eggshell white, with a stucco faux finish. We will be very close to that with maybe an accent wall for my taste. The thing is it will be a combination of us both, making our room a place of peace and harmony for both of us. When you set up rooms in your home you must keep this in mind. You might want to hire a decorator or perhaps have a Feng Shui expert come in and make it yours. If you share the space, you must make it work together, which takes me to the last point.

3.  Keep your home a peaceful place for all that are living in it. I spent years renting rooms, so I learned to deal with others’ living situations. The best arrangement in those days was the three plus years I lived with my roommate, Jannie. We had our own areas, but also had common living areas. In our home here, we also have common living areas and private personal areas. We all work on different schedule so the house could have activity going on just about 24 hours a day. But we’ve set it up to be quiet during certain times, no matter what, to accommodate those who have set work schedules. So you have to set your home up to work with all whom live there to have the peace they need.

Setting your home up to give peace, as a place for you to rest, is what will help you in building that success you want in 2012. After all, we need to rest sometime and if you are never at a place to get that rest you are keeping yourself from success.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time for you to live your dream to love what you do and those you share life with. Set your home up for peace in your life to be the RockStar in your world.

Environment Week: Your World

Good Monday morning to you. We are starting the last full week of January. Next week our first month of 2012 will be over. I have taken the subjects little by little in our themes this year to help keep regular readers on track with making this year the best one yet.

After a week of habits and a week about going the extra mile, I wanted to have a theme about building the environment that brings you success and keeps you working towards your goals. It’s like setting life up to be in forward movement towards your goals and dreams. To keep you focused on building your dream and living an ideal life

I feel that my life is ideal and I live the way I want to live. This does not mean that I do not work. As a matter of fact, right now I put in more hours doing what I do now than I did at my prior jobs but now I love everything about my life. When I have to work at those projects that I do really like to do, it no longer brings me down, as I know exactly what I’m working towards when I’m doing them.

Last week I wrote one day about needing a massage and, thanks to a referral from a friend, I found a new massage therapist. I was very inspired about her story of how she is working towards her future. She immigrated to the US as a young adult and worked a food service job, saving her money to go through massage school. She now works massaging clients while she is little by little saving to get through law school and paying cash for it. There are three important things I learned when talking to her and hearing her story.

1.  Set your world up for success. Know that life is going to have a few challenges. You are going to have to work; if you are starting over with nothing, you are probably going to have to work at some places you don’t like. While you are doing that, plan the next move and start saving towards it. This lady set herself up so she now only works about three hours a day on average to bring an income that is four times what others make working a good job. She set herself up to work fewer hours with maximum pay so she could fit in schooling. She also did not take on a large amount of debt to buy toys that were not needed. She does not live in luxury while I know others who make the same amount of money and have a new car, bigger TVs, a high mortgage and fancy furniture. But she is looking at the long-term goals.

2.  Learn those things that will trip you up. In life we have things that could tempt us to not keep towards the goals. If you know that you will have the problem of spending money on the big TV, learn ways to delay the gratification towards those real goals you want. For us it was holding off things for our Harleys because we want to save small amounts so we can take a week-long honeymoon riding trip and really enjoy ourselves.  If our money is not right we will camp instead of staying in hotels. The point is we keep our life focused on long term goals and we know the temptation that our bikes can be. So we set ourselves up to not buy those things that aren’t needed and put money aside for the things we will need, like tires, brakes, oil changes.

3.  Bounce back from failure. We are going to fail at some things in our lives. I had to learn how to use my failures to work for me and stop letting them end the process I was seeking. So the third thing was learning to come back from failure. Let’s think of it as coming back from a tough time. If you do not have the income you want, then you must be willing to go the extra mile to get the success. If you want to succeed, be willing to maybe work that extra job to keep the money coming in while you build your dream.

So this week is going to focus on a few areas where we set ourselves up for success, building a complete environment that keeps us in a successful mind frame. When you build each one of these areas, you will find that you will be building a success environment to keep you walking in success.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach; it’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. Build an environment of success and become the RockStar in your world.

3 Keys to Define Habits

I am sitting on my patio today overlooking the lake at our home and the fact that I’m sitting in 60 plus degrees in the winter is awesome. In this part of Texas in the winter we never know what our weather is going to be like so it’s hard to plan for it. In my life I have several weekly things I do. One is taking a Friday night dinner ride with my fellow Harley riders. This time of year I miss some of the rides due to cold temperatures and the distance to ride back home in the cold after dark.

It got me to think this week about the habits I keep. The birds are on the lake and they seem to have their own world each day no matter what the temperature is; they do what they do by instinct. But we need to form habits that will carry us through whatever happens. So what are the things that we should keep in mind when forming the habits that will bring us success? I thought of three of them and want to share them today.

1.  Know the success you’re aiming for. We plan out a habit to bring success in our lives. So if you know what success you want, you know where you are and where you are going. You have to know the good that is coming from these changes. We all look at the goals we want to achieve but forget about the great things in our lives that the growth process brings on the way to the goals. So you need to know the success and the good that comes from changing your habits.

2.  Know the Struggle. In life when you make a change that is for the better it will often be a struggle. I once heard the description that when you set a goal you automatically set in front of yourself an obstacle as well. It’s not part of what we were thinking about when we set the goal but it will come. We never know what obstacles we’ll find, but we know they are coming. The key is to be prepared for a struggle and never take your eyes off the goal by putting them on the obstacle because that will divert you away.

3.  Do this for yourself. No matter what you are trying to change in your life it will not work until you do it for yourself. Too many people in life start to work on the problems, work on changing habits but do it for the wrong reasons. If you set your goals this year because someone else wants you to or if you are changing your habits to make someone else happy it will eventually fail. We have to make changes in our lives for ourselves. When you make those changes in life for yourself because you want to improve, it will bring you joy going through the challenges and struggles to reach a goal that is your own.

I hope this week has given you hope. Creating new habits and changing old ones to make your life better is another step on the journey to your success in 2012.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. Forming good habits in life will make you the RockStar in your world.

Habits and the Mind

Good Thursday morning. How are your habits going so far? In this week’s theme of habits, one of the key things is use of our minds to change our habits. I have told my story many times about how I decided to change my mind. I wanted to get past something so I used the power of the mind to change myself. Many times I have talked about the beautiful mind, how I use my mind to control things instead of taking a medication.

So how do we use our minds to change our habits? Well before we can use the mind, first we must remove all the temptations. Once you have the temptations to go back on the new habit removed, you get your mind ready to handle the tough stuff.

There are two ideas we use to get the mind ready and they both are needed to get your mind to establish your new habits.

1.  Meditation. You have to use the mind to focus on what it is you are going to change. If you are trying to remove a bad habit, picture yourself in your mind about to partake in the bad habit, then in your mind stop yourself; tell yourself you are not going to do that. For example, if you’re trying to quit smoking, close your eyes and see yourself about to light the cigarette. Picture yourself stopping and telling yourself that you don’t smoke.  If you are trying form a good habit then you must close your eyes and picture yourself doing that very habit. Let’s say you want to start getting up 45 minutes earlier each morning so you can read the newspaper before heading to the office. Then each night before your go to bed close your eyes and picture yourself waking up with the alarm. Then see yourself being tempted to stay in bed but getting up anyway. This is the way to visualize what you want and picturing the outcome you want.

2.  Affirmations. This is the other side of the coin. Now you have to focus on your positive changes. Affirmations are phrases that you use to give your mind a positive direction. Imagine if you were to take the exercise above, trying to form a habit of waking up earlier each day. You would picture it as mentioned above, but along with dealing with the temptation to snuggle back under the covers instead of waking with the alarm, you also include a saying like “I always wake up at 7 am to greet my day. I never need an alarm clock since I love mornings so much. I’m looking forward to what I will do with my extra time.” Habits are the things that change us, but you must condition your mind to get you into the habits that will bring you the success that you want in your life.

Take these ideas and take control of your mind. When people ask me how I do what I do, one of the key things I tell them is I take control of my mind. If I can tell my mind to do something, the rest is a downhill venture.  I hope this week not only helps you to get rid of those bad habits but take control of your mind and create some good habits that bring you success in 2012.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. Start living your dream, love what you do and those you share life with. Create habits that will make you the RockStar in your world.

Habits and Failure

When it comes to habits and the word “failure,” most people tend to think of bad habits.  So today we are going to focus on getting rid of habits that are pulling us away from success.

One of the things I hear most from people as they are thinking of changes to make is stopping things that were keeping them in a pattern of failure. They make resolutions to stop eating fried foods, to give up drinking, to quit smoking. These are habits many people try to get rid of; they’re trying to break the hold those habits have on their lives and they cannot picture these habits as part of a successful life.

In my own life I am making changes to live a healthier lifestyle, and the biggest bad habit I have is eating fast food. I have lived many years where my budget was limited and had to find a good deal in order to eat. The dollar menu at McDonald’s was good to keep me fed, but it was not the best thing for me.

Another bad habit I have is drinking energy drinks like Red Bull and Monster. I loved the taste of them, and they usually skyrocket my energy level, but in most cases it is too much. The truth is they are harmful to drink at the rate I was drinking them. So it has become a bad habit that I’m trying to remove from my life.

I want to show you a few steps to keep you on track and help avoid failure as you remove bad habits.

1.  Form a reminder or something other trigger for if you are falling back into your habits. If you are trying to remove the energy drinks from your diet as I am, well removing them from the house is the first thing. But look at what other drinks lead up to them. I do drink many forms of caffeine and have had to limit myself to one per day. So I have set up a reminder to drink water more during the day. I replaced the shelf of energy drinks in my fridge with bottled water. That way when I grab a drink from the drink shelf it reminds me to choose something that is better for me.

2.  Always replace what you are giving up with something else. This is a big one I learned when starting my coaching practice. I learned about space and energy in life. If you remove one thing something will jump in to fill its place and if you’re not careful, it can be another bad habit. In my life I have a tough time with this, as I want to remove things that are not needed to create more space. But I’ve learned that if I leave a void, something else will fill it. So replacing the bad habit with a good one is always a way to help get rid of those bad habits.

3.  Don’t be afraid to fail. This is key. So many people just quit on what they worked hard on for so much time because of one minor foul up. So you failed; get up and start over. Think of how many times successful people fail. They get up one more time and try again. If you fell back into that bad habit, well, get back up and start over. This happens a lot with people who are trying to give up a habit completely – like drinking alcohol or smoking. They count the number of days they’ve gone without a drink or without a cigarette and if they slip, they simply have to start over. While I do drink some, and we have many parties here at our home that include alcoholic drinks, many people aren’t able to handle alcohol; they shouldn’t have it in their lives at all because it’s just not healthy for them. In my case those energy drinks are just not healthy for my life. If you fall off the wagon when one friend offers you a small drink or a cigarette, get up and start again; there is nothing wrong with failure if you learn from it. So set your goals high and take some chances to change your bad habits.

2012 is just starting; yes you are going to have a setback or failure this year. One or two of them will happen. You must learn to get back up and press on towards those goals you have set for yourself this year. Getting rid of the bad habits and replacing them with better ones will change your world one day at a time.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love what you do, and those you share life with. Exchange your bad habits for good ones and become the RockStar in your world.

Keep Yourself on Track with Habits

Good Tuesday morning. We are now 17 days into the month of January as well as into the year. In yesterday’s post we talked about the idea of taking 28 days to make something a true habit. They say it takes 21 days to form a new habit and make a change in our lives but we talked about how giving yourself a full 28 days will make sure it’s really part of your life. That can make the difference in your success.  I hope that habits and change are starting in your life in 2012.

Yesterday as I was putting up that post, I personally was dealing with some of the issues that I’m facing in this new year in making changes in my life and taking it step by step. In December, when planning my year, I took on the idea of making my life healthier. One of the changes I planned to make was to exercise more, to keep my heart and my life healthy. Right off I had to deal with the fact that even taking small steps of walking I ended up with cramps the following day due to not stretching enough and not taking enough extra water in my system.

When people face challenges like this, they can tend to give up hope in the changes that they are trying to make. Yesterday when I woke up, I wanted to just lie in bed, not do anything. With the many stresses and other things I am facing right now, I am also looking at getting regular massages to work out the stress out as well as deal with those pains and rough times from doing more exercise.

But then I had a reminder when looking at these changes. A little more than a year ago my father was feeling very stressed so he went to get a massage and that is where he left this world. Putting the two of these things together today I wanted to bring out some points to help you in the process of making the changes, making new habits this year to change your life for the better.

  1. Set some reminders. In life we always are tempted to fall back into our old ways. The soreness I’m experiencing in my new exercise program is a reminder from my body that I’m not as young as I used to be. To counter that I need to remind myself that what I’m doing by exercising more and stretching is part of what I’m doing to keep me healthy. The discomfort in my body often makes me want to quit my program so I set a system of reminders that tells me to keep on track when I want to just give up because the road is not easy. The new habits will be formed but until they are life will be a bit uncomfortable.

2.  Stay consistent with your plan. This is key to developing a real habit. You can’t do it only when you feel like it. As I was thinking about the fact that I need a massage for those sore muscles that need to get some stress out of them, I was reminded of the fact that my Dad didn’t lose his life on that massage table because of the massage itself. It was because he was not taking his medication for his heart – something he should have been doing consistently, every day. We must stay consistent with training or whatever it is that is needed to make any changes and habits that will bring success in our lives.

3.  Accountability. As coaches we always bring this one up. If you have a trainer or friend to work out with, you always have someone to hold you to your goals. Or maybe you have someone to keep you remembering the routine things that need to become regular habits, like the doctor who told my dad he needed to take that medication to keep his heart in shape. We all have someone, from our doctor, to our kids, parents, or close friends, who wants to see us succeed at the goals we want to accomplish. We set habits we want to develop and then have that loving family member or friend or coach to keep us on track. If you are like me and working to make your life healthy in 2012, I recommend a health coach. This is someone who will keep you accountable to the fitness and health goals you want to achieve. In coaching, it is you who sets that plan; your agenda is what life coaches are all about.

So take these three ideas to make your habits stick in 2012. After all, the year is just starting; if you have not gotten started, now is the time. Don’t wait until this year is over then say, “I wish I would have…” You can start over at any time; that is the great thing about a new day or new week. You decide to make that change.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach; it’s time to live your dream to love what you do and those you share life with. Form habits that help you become the RockStar in your world.

Change Habits


Good Monday morning. Welcome to week three of the year. I wanted to have a week about habits and how they make our success. No matter what part of your life you are trying to make better, it’s the habits you have that will make or break your success.

A few years ago I read Brian Tracy’s book called Million Dollar Habits. The book was great because it taught me how to build the habits I needed to succeed. So I want to dedicate one week to the idea of habits and how they make our success.

Today let’s talk about the time factor and how you use it to build a habit into our life. I have three areas today to think about as you dedicate the time to change your habits.

1.  Give yourself four weeks to make something a habit. There are so many things that say it takes 21 days to form a habit. Well to make your new habit stick, you need a little bit more time than that. To make something a lasting habit, you need to set up the next four weeks, 28 days. Or even make it one 30-day month and after that time you will see how it the habit is making your success.

2.  Take it to your daily life. Yes, a habit is something you do on a repetitive basis. Whether good or bad, it is repetitive. Commit yourself to change daily. That will take you to one final step to break into the new habit.

3.  Inch by inch, anything is a cinch. I heard that a million times as a child. To get yourself through the 28 days to form a lasting habit, you have to take it on a daily basis, starting with just one day. You have to take small steps to make anything happen. It starts with the first time. Stop putting off to tomorrow what you want to change.

We are only three weeks into 2012 and it’s the perfect time to change your habits to bring success. If you start with one new habit using this idea, by the end of this year you will have success in life in 12 new areas. So start now.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love what you do, and those you share life with. Change your habits this year and become the RockStar in your world.