Kick Start Your Heart


The year was 1987. It was a wild tour with Motley Cruë on tour with Guns ‘n Roses. The bass guitar player for Motley Cruë, Nikki Sixx, had a very long history of trouble with the drug heroin. Nikki Sixx was partying with Slash from Guns ‘n Roses, I believe; he had way too much and overdosed. He was considered dead for a full two minutes, until an ambulance crew arrived. The leader of that medic team that night was a big Motley Cruë Fan. He is believed to have said one of his music heroes was not going to die on his shift.

I do not know the entire story because I was not there; I only read of it on news web sites, and in accounts by Nikki Sixx. What I can tell you is that most people who come back from an experience like that never forget it. Nikki Sixx wrote a song about it.

The band, Motley Cruë, is one of my favorites; it has always been. I use stories like this in my work and this is one of the things that makes the way I work with people in coaching stand out. I know many coaches, speakers, and motivators who would never have researched a story like this to use for their programs. Nikki is not exactly the kind of person who would speak at a local church. In fact, my personal experience growing up in church was always being pointed away from stories like this.

Nikki stands out to me because not only did his best years happen after this event, but some of his best happened after he cleaned up from the life of heavy drugs. As I have said his music will not make the church scenes. But his motivational story is one that impacts people – just like his life and music had impacted a paramedic enough that he vowed as a fan to kick-start Nikki’s heart because he refused to see him die.

Now let me tell you the story of another person I know personally who had a near-death experience like Nikki Sixx. Tim Newland is a friend of mine from the Dallas area. He is the current president of the Passion Riders chapter of the Christian Motorcyclist Association, in Carrollton, TX. Tim has had heart problems and has had a device implanted to help keep his heart working properly. A few years ago, before I met Tim, he was out on a motorcycle ride with some friends. Tim fell down in the parking lot where they were meeting and those who were with him claim he died that day. The riders took their own form of “we are not letting him die on our watch.” They all put their hands on Tim and prayed over him. He came back and now Tim, just like Nikki, lives a life that has much more passion than before.

So what is your passion in life? I hope for you that it will not take lying on the ground with friends praying over you, or an ambulance crew giving you two shots of adrenaline to make you come to life with passion. In this week where we are talking about standing out from the crowd to succeed, both Nikki Sixx and Tim Newland are people who stand out. So is it time to kick-start your heart?

I’m Tim Gillette the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. Kick-start your heart with passion to be the RockStar in your world.

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Soul Surfer

If you have not seen the movie, Soul Surfer, I recommend it. When starting to plan out this week, this movie was not on my list of the things I had planned to use as an illustration. But after hearing someone who related their life to the story in this movie, I had to check it out.

The movie is about the story of Bethany Hamilton, a 13-year-old surfer who lost her arm in a shark attack. The movie shows her struggles to live with the new challenge in her life, learning to balance life as a surfer with one arm. It shows her, among other things, learning to help others who are afraid of the water after a tsunami hits.

Her story is a strong one when we think of those who struggle with a loss. They have to overcome some great struggle to succeed. When thinking of her story and the theme for this week, I wanted to add this movie as one to give life lessons on standing out. At the end the movie she is asked in an interview if she could go back to that day would she not go surfing? She replied she would still choose to lose her arm because now she can embrace more people with one arm then she could before with both arms.

In Dallas, we have a similar story happening now. The family of Lauren Scruggs is facing a similar loss. She lost her hand and an eye when she accidently walked into a spinning plane propeller in December. I have known her family’s struggles long before this happened. Her parents have chosen to take the trials they went through with their marriage and make a ministry out of it, helping others restore marriages as they did with theirs.

Some who struggle with a loss will give up the spirit that kept them chasing a dream. Others will take strength in the loss; they will find a new way to pursue the God-given dream that is inside of them. When they are able to see past the struggle, when they watch the dream come true, they will be like Bethany and say, “I would still give up that arm.” You will be able to do far more without the one thing that is taken than you were able to do with all still intact.

So, in your life, what have you lost? No matter what it is, you need to keep two things in mind that will support you to do the purpose you have yet to do on this earth.  It is that purpose that can be your driving force. In my own life, when I set out towards my own purpose I, had things fall into place to take care of things I had lost.

When you have a major loss like the one shown in this movie, there are two things you must keep in mind to keep going. They will help you to perform the purpose you still have on this earth. Remember, if you are still breathing, your job on this earth is not done.

So what are the two things we need to hang on to?

1.  Hope. That’s right. Even through loss, you need to be a person of hope. I have spoken on this subject many times. Those who have hope that a better purpose is coming along and start a journey to look for it with hope succeed and stand out.  I know that every time I had a business fail or when I woke up in the hospital after an epilepsy seizure, it was hope that it was going to be OK that got me back in the game. I knew that something better was coming along. Even when going down some deadend roads that left me having to start over again, hope was the thing I held on to that better days were coming.

2.  Spirit. No matter what it is you have lost, never lose the spirit and drive to find what it is you are to do now. I know when we were younger we were all told “You can do anything you want; if you want to be President of the United States some day you can.” We had that belief for a great life; we started making plans to see a dream of passion of purpose come true. The truth is those who achieve the dreams they had as a child all had to lose a few things along the way. We all had to walk up a few mountains along the path to make that dream come true.

So if you want to stand out, find the ways to keep your balance when life takes something from you. Life is always going to take you on turns that were not in your plan. You will have things taken from you. The way you handle it, the new things that you learn to do will be what make you stand out in a crowd of hundreds doing the same business you are. No matter what you have lost, use it to be the stand-out person in your world.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. It’s how you rebalance life after you lose that thing you thought you needed to be in balance that will make you the RockStar in your world.

Professional during the process

Good Wednesday morning to you in this short week. I have two more posts related to this week’s theme. Today we are going to talk about how to be professional when you have to work at one place while your heart or dream is in the building phase.

I remember back to the days when I had to work a job while spending nights and weekends trying to build my business or a dream I wanted. I think back to the days when I wanted to have my own company, I was working days at a car dealer. Nights and weekends I was working to put money away towards going full-time in my first entrepreneurial venture. I had to learn to be humble when working for someone else. But when I was away from that Job I had to be self-confident. In both places, I had to be professional.

All day long I thought about how I wanted my dream, how I wanted to run my own business. Yet I had to work a job to pay bills and in most cases the job I worked did nothing more that. Are you one of those people who wants to be somewhere else professionally but for now you have to do what you are doing? So how do you remain professional on the job when your heart is elsewhere?

In my world of coaching people and helping them start over, I help them to first get life going, then to build a new dream and start working towards it. That includes working at jobs you may be over-qualified for, or places that just pay the bills while you do something else on your own time. I had to do this when I started over: I started working at Starbucks, just making the coffee. I knew I could run other companies and I knew my dream was to be building a new business. But had to maintain a level or professionalism while doing the daily grind.

So today I want to give you some points to make the world you are in work for you, and help you build that world you dream of all while being professional. Here are three short points to help:

1.  Never be afraid to get your hands dirty. In life, whether you are starting over or you are to the point where you just need to pay the bills, never let your pride get in the way. Yes, I have worked jobs with companies where I felt I could do better. But I kept my pride to myself and was able to act as if the job was a joy for me to be at. This lesson was the hardest when working at Starbucks. Our job was to always create an awesome experience for the customer and some customers were very challenging. Well, no matter what job I had to do, I learned to put a smile on my face and let them think that this was the greatest joy for me, to be there, with them, at that moment. This means if you need the money, you might have to work a job that is below you for a time to get back up. I have always been willing to work wherever I needed to. If that meant serving coffee or pumping gas I was going to do it.

2.  Never let them see you sweat. While working serving coffee, I had to learn that in life I had to always keep the smile there and I had to make that job look like I was a pro at it. Always have the smile even when the customer tells you that you suck and can’t do anything right. You smile and tell them – sincerely – “I hope this coffee makes your day. Thanks for coming in.”

3.  Always stay in a state of learning. No matter what you have to take as a job, you can learn from it. I learned how to treat people in a better way when I had to start over. I had to learn some lessons in life. If you are at the place where you are working a job and you know you could do better, look for ways to grow. If it means taking a course to make some corner better then do it. Last night I went to a meeting to learn how to maintain my own web pages and make them work better for me. I learned a few things. When I stepped into that group, I knew they were like the Einsteins when it came to using the web and knowing tools to make their pages better. But they were able to teach me a few things that I was glad to come home and learn more about. So no matter what you have to do, keep your mind open to learning.

You have to be a professional even if you work a job that pays minimum wage. If you have to work two jobs to get ahead, then do it with a smile. Keep your heart working at your dream but give your current job (the job that is helping you achieve your dream) 100% of yourself; that is what they are paying you for and they have a right to expect your best in exchange for the money they are giving you.

Tomorrow will be a special post about being thankful and then on Friday we will have one last post about professionalism in the retail world. So have a good time with your family this Thanksgiving weekend.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live your dream, to love what you do and those you share life with. Learn to be professional where you are at even if it’s not your dream. That’s what makes you a RockStar in your world.

Start a New Routine

As we come to the middle part of our week on what to do after vacation, today we are going to tackle the subject of how to build a routine that works. We started our week with clearing our heads and finding that place for meditation and spending time each day to get ourselves focused. Then yesterday we got out our cleaning supplies and took a look at those things that need to be taken out of our lives that are holding us back. Once you have the two of these done, you now see yourself thinking of new ways to get your projects done, and you have space to do them now that some weights have been lifted.

What we need to do next is build a routine with all that extra space that gets us working more efficiently. If you are a creative person like me you love to have the freedom to express your artistic side. I do that each day in this blog and other things I’m writing. Many people I talk to want to know how I get the inspiration to write like this. They want to know what they need to do to get this much written.

Well even with my free spirit / inspirational / be creative personality, I have to set up a routine that gets me working on these things on a regular basis. I have a routine that gets me in front of this computer to write. No matter what I have going on, I treat this like it’s a job. For a long time I tried just getting to it when I felt like it. This left me so many times up late at night working to get something written. Working only when you feel like it will never bring you success.

So if you learn to build a routine for what you need to get done it will take the stress out of your day. When you are starting over, you may be at the place in life I was a few years ago when I had to spend so many hours of each day at a job working. That was part of my routine. To make this business a success I had to build a routine outside of my work to get things done. Many who are reading this are always looking for ways to get from that routine they call a job to a new dream. Well, yes, you may have to work at a job that is its own routine, but the routine you set with your spare time is what will bring you success at your side venture.

Since we came back from vacation, this week it’s like we are starting over. So how do you build your routine that makes you successful? This entire idea is built around management of your time. I have found several time management programs out there that give you ways to take the steps you need to get your time back to being yours. Here are a few suggested programs to help you find a new time management system for you that are low cost.

 501 tips and ideas for finding more time.

Time management for entrepreneurs.

Stop Procrastinating in 21 days.

These are good self-help programs that can help you reach your goals, help you get your time working for you, or just get yourself back on track after a great vacation. Of course I also have a few tips to get you going if you want to try on your own.

1.  Define your objective. Like I said above, maybe you are working a job right now to bring in the money you need until you are able to set out on your own with the business or venture that you dreamed of doing. Maybe it’s to launch a non-profit  to help people, like my friends did at Races4change.org.  Whatever it is you need to define that to start with.

2.  Do some research. The greatest research tool is Google. Find five other people who are doing what you are doing. Learn how they got there, what challenges they went through to get there.

3.  Take action with what you’ve got. Yes, I write almost 2000 words a day – about 1000 for this blog and 1000 on books and programs I am working on. But I started out doing less. If you only have an hour each day to do this then take that one hour and use it. Even the small actions and small amounts of time add up over time. The point is when taking action, make it work towards your goal. Find ways to make this a routine that changes your world.

4.  Keep a record of your progress. Last night I was hanging out with some of my closest friends in business and we talked about an old friend of theirs, who I never met. He faced challenges that came into his life one at a time, at a very rapid pace. The one thing that everyone asked him to do was to keep a journal or record of his story to help others. If you don’t like to write, find another way to keep notes. Call me and I will help you set up a way to record your story and get you to the people who are writers and looking to help you tell your story.

5.  No matter what happens, press on. Last week we lost Steve Jobs to a form of cancer. Many on this earth will suffer in pain and you will never know it. Steve Jobs dealt with this sickness for years, yet in those years he introduced three modern technology devices. Think about when he learned of his illness; it was after his diagnosis that he introduced the iPhone, MacBook Air, and the iPad. Imagine if he had awakened each day and said, “I don’t feel like working today; I hurt.” Many of you would not be reading this on your iPad today. Yes I have done the tasks that are part of my dream even on the days that I could not get out of bed. Don’t let a little sickness or uncomfortable feeling keep you from your dream.

So what is your dream and what routine are you going to assign yourself to make that dream come true? Are you willing to work on those days that you do not feel well? We don’t know that days we have on this earth, but I do know this: if you are still alive you have not fulfilled your purpose yet. Take each day you have and work toward it because if you are not living your purpose or chasing your dream you are not living.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time to live the life you always dreamed of, to love what you do and those you share this life with, and get a routine that makes you the RockStar in your world today.

Lost On Purpose

This week has been a learning experience for me. I’ve spent a lot of time going through some stories of my own personal life, the stories of others, and the view of the future. When you look at your past and see what you learned from it, take those things that people would say are failure or loss, and ask yourself if you have used them to take your life to new levels of success? You see, everyone has the same view of life: we all can look at our past, see if we learned from the mistakes or repeat them and we can see either success or repeated failure. That will show you where your future is.

I have faced loss so many times in my life, then kept the hope alive to start over. When you face a loss in any way in your life that is the one thing you don’t ever want to lose: hope. The purpose to this week is to help you see there is life after your loss.

Just like when we lose a loved one we must face a time of mourning, a time to sit back and reflect on that part of our life. We are not to stay there, to linger in the loss. In the next month we are going to have a memorial of the 10th year anniversary of 9/11. That happened to our country ten years ago. Some people went on to build much better lives to honor those who lost lives that day. They will actually be opening a monument to what happened in New York next month.

In your life, when loss happens you build a memorial to it, but also take your life to a new level to honor the fact that you learned from this loss. If we lose a loved one to something like 9/11 or war, we build something to honor the bravery of the person we lost.

The main purpose I had for this week was to learn and grow from every chance you get, to become a better person, to grow your dream even bigger out of the loss you had. For me, with each and every business that didn’t work out, some of them I closed the door and some I sold out just to let the headaches go. They are not in the past; I learned from them to build the next one better–not always bigger, but better.

This week we mentioned Steve Jobs and how he resigned from his position at Apple. If you go back and check his story, he was once kicked out of Apple. Imagine if he had left the world of computers because he could not take that loss. Think of the tech products that would not have been invented. He started another vision and built it, till the day came that his former company bought out his new company and kept him on as CEO.

When you get a vision for something, a loss like that is only a stepping-stone to get you to continue towards the path you were working on. It may mean you have a mountain or two to go around to get there.

A loss I had a few years ago that I do not speak of much was the loss of a lady who I dated. I believed she was the woman I was going to spend the rest of my life with. Well, it did not work out. When that relationship ended it really knocked me down. I ended up losing most of my close friends at that time and found myself starting over with a small team of just me.

I tell that story because now, as I look back, it was one of the greatest things that happened to me. I did not date for a few years after that; I was able to really build my life. Then when I did not expect it, in 2009 I met a woman who is truly my life match. We have so much more of a joyful time with each other, have so many common dreams. With Gwynne in my life I now have two successful businesses where she is my partner, not just the person who hangs on my arm for public appearances, but partners as we share everything, even our adult kids.

So when you feel loss is the end, take the words of Gene Simmons to heart: “Every day above ground is a good day.” I lost my dad this past year, and yes I miss him. But he wanted me to honor him by moving forward with my life, to enjoy every day I have with this life, enjoy all the time I have with my family. So you must move past the lost part of your life now. Step out and make new plans to start over. That is the purpose of lost, to tell you it’s time to start over and make it better.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s your time to live the life you always dreamed of, to learn to love what you do and those you share this life with. Let me help make you the RockStar in your world. My specialty is helping start over after loss and come out better than ever! Contact me today and let’s get started!

I Got it

Did you ever stop in life and look to make sure you have everything you need? Think about what your life is like each day. Do you make more than two trips back inside to get something you forgot? When we were kids and misplaced things (I say misplaced because we all know I would never lose anything), my mom always had the saying “It’s in the last place that you left it.” Or we make the comment it’s always in the last place we look. Well, yeah it is. Why would you keep looking if you already found it?

Now with our lives as we get older we seem to misplace things more.  A few weeks ago while on a ride, my honey misplaced her iPod. It was good because it was getting old and many things were going wrong with it. Just like with my bike, she got a great deal on a new one that suits her much better than her old one. But it got me to thinking when I misplace things how many times I retrace my steps to find the thing I’m looking for. Usually it’s under a coat or jacket I put on top of it. But I wanted to use this idea today to explain another thing in life that would be a back to basic to help us reach our goals.

When working with Starbucks a few years ago, they were doing a lot of inside evaluating to see how many steps we took each day. Then we started to work on the process to get the same result but making fewer steps. This is also the idea that I wanted to put out in the post today. If you have been reading this week, you noticed that I am traveling on my bike again. I use a great site to find my places to stay along the way. It’s called Couchsurfing. I get to stay in other people’s homes and it gives me much more of a feeling of being at home while on the road. Well this morning while packing up my stuff, I had to make a trip back into the house after I had my bike all packed up to find a silly thing: my iPod. After I finished charging it, I had set it down on the bed. But then it fell off and was under it.

When I am at home I have a system to put all of my things where I can find them. A key rack on the wall has my key chain; I put my wallet on a shelf by the bed; my phone gets plugged into a charger on my night stand. Clothes are put on a chair. When I’m done with it, my laptop is put on a stand with the charger attached to be ready for me when my day starts. While I’m on the road, my world is a bit interrupted; I don’t have these comforts to set things up. So this morning I had to look to find my iPod.

How does this fit into our topic this week? Well, we need to have a system to set ourselves up for success, a way that we build habits to place our things to get us out the door in a proper amount of time each day. Imagine if your life worked together like the parts in your car’s engine work together to make it run when needed. You turn the key, press on your accelerator and you just hear the purring of your engine. On our bikes we twist the throttle and you just hear the engine smoothly run.

So what are some ways that we could set our life up for success and not have to re-trace our steps in times like mine, being on the road? You need to build habits into your life that get you to repeat a process that makes it build your success system in life. For me, I have to learn to pack my bike the same way each day so that I do not forget things. Last year on my trip I lost a cap that I’d had for many years by breaking my daily habits. While I have lived without the hat, if I had learned to build a system, even with waking up in a different place each day I would still be wearing that hat.

In our world there are more gadgets, all different kinds of brief cases, and back packs for taking more things with you for travel and keeping them in a kind of order so that you never lose things. As I work this week from Phoenix I will be setting myself up for success. If you want to do the same for your life like we do at home, I suggest you look into a professional organizer, have them come and look at the way you have things in life and the way you live your life, then develop a system to keep you moving.

I’m Tim Gillette, the Rocker Life Coach. It’s time for you to live the life you always wanted, to love what you do and those you share your life with. If you need help to become a RockStar where you are call us. We have programs to fit every budget, every need. You can find me at tim@rockerlifecoach.com or call 214.616.8912. We’re here to help you